2020 New Year Guide To An Overall Better Decade

1) DON'T TELL YOURSELF YOU NEED FIXING, YOU ARE NOT BROKEN! I hate how the new year suggests we're imperfect. Its such an old school way of thinking. We're great the way we are. Sure, we could all use a little enhancing BUT a little MORE self love GOES ALONG WAY. They say how you treat yourself, you will treat the world. So the 1st to make the list this 2020 is, to simply watch the way you speak to yourself. This act alone has the serious potential to change the world. Setting goals this new years is fine and dandy but your more likely to achieve them with a happy supportive inner voice. What it reflect outward, and maybe you won't try and kill the girl who signs you into the gym next week. 2) STOP OPERATING OUT OF GUILT. When we live in-authentically and suppress our true desires we often reach to food, drugs or alcohol to numb these feelings of self betrayal. Instead set up boundaries, operate within your values, get more comfortable with saying NO. 3) ITS OKAY TO TAKE A TIME OUT! As kid's we dread hearing this but as adults we really should take a time out, more often, I believe it will cultivate more ownership over situations and give us the space to act wisely. Perhaps then less fights between our partners, coworkers and overall I believe less shitty decisions will get made if we just learn to give ourselves time to process how we feel so that we can act wisely vs emotionally. 4) ASK YOURSELF " DOES THIS SPARK JOY"? If you've never heard that statement you need to "Marie Kondo" your life to learn why LESS is MORE! Donating Items & decluttering your life is essential to leaving behind the past and moving forward. Think of it as the items your donating will bring happiness to someone else and good karma to you, leaving your space free for creative thoughts, or..more shopping? Only we truly know what brings us happiness, by picking up each item in our house and asking ourselves that we make space for other things/experiences to bring us joy. 5) DITCH "ALL OUR NONE THINKING". Also known as black and white thinking, this is something that with help & practice can be unlearned. This can be how you define yourself, or look at something with a narrow view. For example, "Right or wrong" “I’m good at something or I’m bad at something," Sometimes this thinking creates extreme and impossible expectations as well as limiting beliefs that get in our way of us accomplishing something. This goes back to being gentle with yourself but also bring awareness to separating self worth from self performance! 6) GET THE FUCK OFF SOCIAL MEDIA. And get onto audio books! Do you know how many hours the average person wastes scrolling? Stop being sold too. The only way to get where you want in life is to learn something new to add value to your life. The cheapest, quickest way? Audio books while you cook, clean, drive. Thus will add a daily dose of happiness to your routine, and after comparing your life to your fake friends online, your gonna need it. 7) JUST DO YOU, Who care's if he didn't text you back and he fcking lives on social media. Get out there and live your life! Be the best damn partner you can be TO YOURSELF. This is a new decade ladies(gents) No Disney fucking prince is showing up on a white horse to save you -- SAVE YOURSELF and enjoy those selfish days to yourself. Build a rich life around you, filled with friends, hobbies, and separate likes from your partner. Its okay to have mutual activities but understanding where you begin and your partner ends is just as important these days. 8) VALIDATE VALIDATE VALIDATE, There is a canary in the coal mine, warning us all that anxiety has become an epidemic. This trauma starts in the body and literally has no way to escape. However modern psychology and sciences have shown that talk therapy is a great way to begin to heal these health problems. We can do that ourselves even without going to the psychologists office. The next time you feel upset or angry, tell yourself that its okay to feel that way and watch your anger dissipate

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